Say Whaaaat?! šŸ˜Æ

Other people noticed my son was different long before I did. I would become very defensive when people would question his repetitive behaviors. I was also in extreme denial about his lack of progress in certain areas of development. Once the munchkin was finally diagnosed with autism, I was ashamed of his disability.

Letā€™s face it, unless your child has high functioning autism or Aspergers, it can sometimes seem like no one really cares. The munchkin and I faced countless rejections from day care centers/ providers and schools with the most common complaint being ā€œ he canā€™t talkā€ followed by ā€œhe doesnā€™t adhere to verbal instructionsā€.

At this point the munchkin and I started practicing some basic sign language so that he could communicate.

When it comes to some forms of autism, the spoken word can be a very precious commodity. Itā€™s something a lot of parents wait years for.

Now, at the age of 15, the munchkin is using language and context to try to get me to give him things he wants.

ā€œMom, can I have fruit snacks please?ā€ the munchkin now asks me. He has actually picked up on how to butter me up to ask for things he really wants.

He calls me ā€œMomā€.

Normally the munchkin calls me by my first name prefacing sentences like ā€œ(insert my first name), come turn my light off pleaseā€ or ā€œ(insert my first name), close the door pleaseā€. I really know Iā€™m in trouble when he calls me by my last name only.

I tell the munchkin I love him often. For years I wondered what feelings if any, he had for me. A few days ago I noticed for the first time that instead of literally repeating what I said, the munchkin stated ā€œmommy loves MEā€ and pointed to himself. Something registered in his brain the actual connection between us.

That moment and those words mean the world to me.

Please comment down below, is your child with autism a ā€œlate bloomerā€ when it came to being a verbal communicator? If so, what did/do you do to encourage communication?

2 thoughts on “Say Whaaaat?! šŸ˜Æ

  1. “mommy loves ME!” I smiled – that is great! At 18 months my son could use a lot of words – by 24 months they were all gone. All that was left was “No!” (He didn’t say the actual word “yes” until he was almost 5 – THAT was a great day!) We tried the pecs and sign language – he just never sat still long enough to engage in learning. It was hard. Lots of speech therapy – with his school and I had him go to a private speech therapist as well. He’s a talker now at 7! And recently I signed “no’ to him – he scrunched up his face and then signed “yes” I laughed so hard – 1. he was finally signing 2. he was fighting with me in sign! Funny little guy šŸ™‚

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